The thing I love about blogging is having the ability to discuss topics that are secretive while remaining anonymous. As a kid I experienced sexuality much sooner than I should have and therefore gained a fairly large libido or so I thought. When I started high school I found that girls were more open about their sexual wants and discovered that my desires were no higher than the next girl. Then I met my husband. I openly admit that we messed up and had sex before marriage and even though we felt guilty, our sex life was good. My husband was always craving me and wanted to enjoy sexy time but that excitement for us was short lived. I soon became the initiator but he would still participate if tempted…Sex for us now, is painful. My husband lost his drive more and more and then eventually admitted to me he never had a drive. Although he watched porn my husband never took interest in it and only masturbated about once a month. It may seem golden to have found a man who really doesn’t like porn but it isn’t so great to have found a husband that isn’t into sex. When I first started getting rejected I couldn’t help but wonder what was going on! My husband of course had a billion excuses for why he didn’t want any sexual interaction but it felt like I was the problem. Aren’t men supposed to walk around all day sex hungry or beg you to allow them some sexy time? Well, apparently not. I immediately started trying to fix my image and did what I could to become more attractive but it was all a waste of effort. My husband didn’t want sex and I couldn’t help feeling like I was the reason. This frustration led me on a search to find a answer and what I found was incredible. I discover more forums of sex deprived women then I would have ever imagined! Here I was thinking men were supposed to be the chasers and I quickly discovered that it usually swings the other way. I decided to strap on my big girl panties and talk to my friends. Three out of the four sympathized with me and could relate! We were all suffering from a lack of confidence due to our husbands low sex drive! Neither me or my friends have found a way to solve this problem but we are fairly certain that we are not the problem. My husband and I have an wonderful relationship and enjoy a fun/loving life together. Both him and I cuddle before bed and help each other out around the house. In fact, Mr. Possible and I got into a fun food fight after dinner then shared a intimate shower that ultimately led to no sex. He says it just isn’t a priority and he just doesn’t want it. I love him and can’t change who he is but sometimes it is hard to fall asleep while feeling unloved.
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My husband and I have the opposite situation, my sex drive is very low. I can tell you from being on the other side, that it has nothing to do with you. I love my husband, I find him very physically attractive and he is great in bed (I always orgasm), but all that doesn’t translate to me wanting to have sex as often as he does.
The only middle ground that we’ve been able to come up with is for me to try to initiate more (more frequently then I actually want sex), and for him to lower his expectation of how often we have sex. I envy couples whose sex drives match! lol
Thank you for sharing! I know I am not at fault but sometimes my emotions get the best of me. We have worked out a system but it doesn’t always make both parties happy. I am jealous of those lucky couples too!